Wednesday, September 7, 2022

Bhai Dooj: A Strong Bond between a Brother and Sister

 

Bhai Dooj 2022

The celebration of Bhai Dooj represents the unique bond between a brother and a sister. The relationship stands out from the others in a unique and special way, unlike any other. This unique relationship is also referred to as a "Bhai Teeka," "Yam Dwitiya," "Bhrat Dwitya," etc. 

Bhai Dooj typically occurs during the dark lunar fortnight of the Kartik month. This date follows Diwali by exactly two days. The sisters apply a tilak and offer a prayer for their brothers' long lives on this particular day. In exchange for all the work the sister does for him, the brother returns the favour by giving the sister gifts and presents. People honour and adore Yamraj, the god of death, during Bhai Dooj.

Customs and Vidhi’s about Bhai Dooj

Bhai Dooj is celebrated on the second day of the dark lunar fortnight. It’s calculation can be done by any of the following methods.

1. According to the scriptures, Bhai Dooj is observed on the second day of the dark lunar fortnight of the Kartik month if it falls in the fourth quarter of the day. If Dwitiya tithi fell in the afternoon on either day, Bhai Dooj should be observed the following day. In addition, we celebrate Bhai Dooj the next day if Dwitiya Tithi does not appear to fall on the afternoon on any of the two days.

2. According to other beliefs, Bhai Dooj is celebrated if the pratipada tithi falls on the evening during a Kartik dark lunar fortnight. Although it is claimed that this belief is not particularly true.

3.  On the afternoon of Bhai Dooj, the brother is to be treated with tilak and lunch. Apart from this, the god of death is also worshipped and venerated on this day.

The Rituals and the Puja Vidhi to be followed on Bhai Dooj

Without appropriate customs and traditions, Hindu festivals, in accordance with Indian religion, don't really convey their true meaning. Every celebration in our nation is therefore observed with the utmost flair and fervour.

1. The dish from which the brother is to be honoured is tastefully—or maybe more appropriately, festively—decorated on the eve of Bhai Dooj. Vermillion, sandal, fruits, flowers, sweets, and betel nuts are required on the platter.

2. Use rice to mark out a square before the Tilak ceremony.

3. The brother is sat on this square while he waits for the right moment for the sister to finish applying the tilak.

4. Before conducting an aarti on your brother, give him fruits, betel nuts, crystallised sugar, betel leaves, and black grammes after the Tilak.

5. After the Tilak and Aarti, the brother gives his sister a gift and makes a lifelong promise to look out for her.

The Legend associated with Bhai Dooj

Every Hindu festival obviously has to have an enthralling background story about it, which usually is a very feisty and sensitive affair. Similarly, Bhai Dooj has an enthralling fable about it. This story tells a lot about the significance and focuses a lot on its importance as well.

The Saga of Yam and Yami

According to a well-known legendary account, the god of death Yamraj visited his sister Yamuna. This visit later evolved into the Bhai Dooj custom, which would be observed for a thousand years to come. Yam and Yami, who were siblings, were the children of the Sun God. After persistently bugging Yam, Yami eventually received her wish. After much pleading, her brother agreed to pay her a visit. Yamuna made sure her brother literally "ate out of her hands" on this particular occasion.

She prayed for him long life and put a tilak on his forehead after lunch. Yamraj asked his sister for a blessing since he felt so loved and cared for. Being the kind sister that she was, she responded that she only wished he would pay her a visit each year and that any sister who performs the rites and puts on the tilak will never have to fear Yamraj, the god of death. Yamraj was delighted to hear his sister's lovely wish, and he blessed and complied with it. Beginning on this day, the Bhai Dooj tradition grew in popularity and became a phenomenon that is still practised today.

To bathe in the holy river of Yamuna is considered of great importance as it is widely believed, if the brother and the sister take a dip in the holy river, they achieve rewards in the form of a better life with less troubles.

The Tale of Krishna and Subhadra

There are also more legends concerning the origins of Bhai Dooj, one of which concerns Lord Krishna. After slaying the devil Narkasur, he was welcomed home by his sister Subhadra with flowers, fruits, and sweets. She also lit diyas and lavishly welcomed him. Before praying that he live for a thousand more years, she placed a tilak on his forehead. From that moment on, it was customary to apply tilak to the forehead of the brother in exchange for the brother giving his sister a seductive gift.

How Bhai Dooj fares in different states

Various names for Bhai Dooj are observed throughout our nation. Due to our diversity and the numerous traditions we uphold, it is inevitable that it is referred to by a variety of names depending on the region and the language spoken there. However, one thing that does not change is the significance that this event has for the people all throughout the country.

Bhai Dooj in West Bengal

In West Bengal, Bhai Dooj is commonly referred to as Phota festival. On this day the sisters observe a fast and once the tilak is done, they treat them with lunch. After the tilak, the brother gets his sister a sweet little present.

Bhai Dooj in Maharashtra

In Maharashtra and Goa, Bhai Dooj is known as Bhao Beej. In Marathi Bhao means brother. On this eve the sister completes the tilak after which she prays for his long life.

Bhai Dooj in Uttar Pradesh

In UP, the sister, after applying tilak on her brother, offers him crystallised sugar and water. It is also a custom to proffer the brother water and dried coconut. The tradition of giving water is followed in almost every household.

Bhai Dooj in Bihar

There is a somewhat peculiar tradition that is only observed in Bihar and nowhere else. In Bihar, the sister will reprimand and even abuse her brother on the eve of Bhai Dooj before later apologising to him. To cleanse the brother of his previous transgressions, this is done. After performing this ritual, the sister covers her brother with tilak and gives him candy.

Bhai Dooj in Nepal

Bhai Dooj is referred to as Bhai Tihar in Nepal. Tihar refers to the tilak, a mark on the forehead that signifies the meaning of the word. In addition, for the same reason, Bhai Dooj is often referred to as Bhai teeka. The sister covers it with a tilak made up of seven colours, and they pray for their brothers' long lives and good fortune.

The festival of Bhai Dooj represents the relationship between a brother and sister. It is a bond unlike any other. Itself is so honest and pure. It softly reminds us that in the midst of all this, good still exists, free from all the cruel and corrupt things to which we are so accustomed today.




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